Breast Augmentation Gone Wrong

Thanks to the health concerns of women who received silicone breast implants in the 1960s and 1970s, the first question in the minds of women who are considering a breast augmentation for the first time is whether the procedures they are about to undergo are entirely safe.

In point of fact, the answer to this question is mostly yes, especially when you take into account the number of breast augmentation procedures that take place every year versus the number of those procedures that don't go well. Much of the thanks for the improved safety record of breast augmentation procedures lies in the fact that women are no longer limited to silicone as an option.

Nowadays, in fact, many choose saline-filled implants over the more questionable silicone augmentations. This does not mean, of course, that there will be absolutely no complications. It is to be noted, however, that the only real complication from saline-filled implants is the possibility that the sailine solution used in the implant could be infected.

Since this is an extremely rare event, women whose implants deflate and leak saline into the chest will have relatively few worries. After all, saline solution is very commonly used in hospitals and is entirely safe for the human body. Another thing to keep in mind is that there are times when the body will reject a breast implant.

This usually results in the creation of a pocket of scar tissue that will encapsulate the implant. Should this happen, the saline - or silicone, if a woman has chosen the more traditional form of breast augmentation - will simply stay trapped inside the encapsulated area.

Overall, however, these complications are much more rare than complications that may arise from other surgical procedures.

Frequently Asked Questions

QUESTION:
Wrong size implants used in breast augmentation?
I have recently undergone breast augmentation and from the outset i noticed that one breast was larger then the other. I put this down the swelling, but i have been for my first check up today and when i raised this with the doctor he admitted that he had used the wrong implant!

Obviously very apologetic and has said he will replace the incorrect implant with the correct one.

This does mean i will have to have another 2 weeks off work and i am wondering whether i should be getting any compensation for the additional time off (Which i will get basic sick pay for if lucky) and the inconvenience and discomfort of going through the operation again.

Can anyone advise me as the best way to deal with this issue and if should be looking to claim compensation, what sort of figure i should be looking for.

Thanks
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QUESTION:
What is wrong with my breast?
I know there's suppose to be a little difference in size of your breasts, but one of my breasts (left one) is a size d and the other (right) is a size b! Could there be something wrong with it? could i have done something to it inavertantly? What can i do besides breast augmentation? I'm 19 by the way, they aren't going thorugh their growth spurt or anything still...
- ANSWER:
  Ask your doctor. Sometimes they just grow that way. You should be able to get things to put in your bra to make them look more symetrical.
QUESTION:
Are Breast Implants Biblically Wrong?
I'm considering a breast augmentation. I'm about a small 'B' cup after having and breastfeedign both my kids. I just recently stopped breastfeeding my now 1 year old daughter and have one boob slightly bigger than the other. I want to fix the problem but also don't want to go to hell for it.
- ANSWER:
  I don't think that plastic surgery is wrong in of itself, especially if it is to fix some deformity (like an non-symmetrical bust).
  
  However, I honestly think that you will be happier in the long run if you simply live with it, and thus learn to be happy with yourself no matter what you look like. We all get less attractive as we get older, and I think that God does this in part so that we will gradually quit worrying about our physical appearance so much.
  
  If you are really worried about this, please read Romans chapter 14. It is a good passage to read if you are worried about whether or not it is OK to do something that is not expressly mentioned in the Bible.
  
  One truth that I got from this passage is that if you think something is a sin, and you do it anyway, then you HAVE sinned, because you had bad motives for what you did (It does not matter if you actually committed a sin or not; if you THINK that you are sinning, then you are sinning -- because of bad intent. Make sense?).
QUESTION:
What is the best area for breast augmentation incisions?
I am going in for breast augmentation in a few months, and I was wondering if anyone who has had implants already could give me some advice. I am leaning towards a trans axillary incision (in the armpit) because I definately do not want the subareolar incision (under the nipple). However, they told me that the armpit incision may cause the implants to be further apart. The other site I was deciding on was inframammary (under the breast in that crease). The only problem is that my breasts are so small that I have no crease right now. If anyone has had the transaxillary incision before, please let me know how the results were. I'm excited but I don't want to be making the wrong decision.
Okay... I did not ask if it was safe or not. Nor did I want information about medical tourism or plastic surgery in India.
- ANSWER:
  I would highly recommend you refer to the My Cosmetic Surgery Blog, it is well written by a women who has been through it all (and some procedures a few times). She gives great and informative insight into what its like to go through the cosmetic surgery process. I just read this article she wrote on choosing the right incision, and found it rather informative, here is the link to the article http://www.mycosmeticsurgeryblog.com/home/breast-augmentation-incision-choices-my-experience.html. She has had the transumbilibal and the areolar incisions, however she has information on the axillary incision as well.
QUESTION:
Please answer if you have had breast augmentation or have seen the results from someone first hand-?
How were the results? I am considering having this done but am afraid of some of the horror stories I have heard of surgeries gone wrong.

Do I have to have the implants re-done at some point in the future?
- ANSWER:
  My wife has had them done, and they turned out very well. Hers was probably not the typical case, though. She lost a large amount of weight after gastric surgery and had a lot a loose skin that had to be removed surgically. This included her chest area, so she had her breasts rebuilt, so to speak, to retain her original size. I have seen some women on TV who have obviously had bad surgeries where its obvious, but with my wife it is not. I think a lot of it depends on how much larger you want to go. Obviously, the larger you try to go, the more likely they are to look fake, because your skin only stretches so far. The more you stretch the skin, the more obvious it is they're fake.
QUESTION:
Problem after breast augmentation?
I'm 19 years old and it's been 7 months since my breast augmentation surgery. The surgeon went through the aerola and since then I haven't been able to feel anything in the nipple area. Is it still too soon or is something wrong?
- ANSWER:
  I think that is pretty normal. Remember that scene in Mean Girls when that dog bites into the mom's.... okay, bad example...
  
  I don't have my breasts augmented, but I found getting my nipple pierced really increased sensitivity.
QUESTION:
Plastic surgery gone wrong?
My friend told me that it happened to some people, that they were just numb but felt the whole procedure! Then they sued. I want to know why this happened? And if anyone knows where to get information about this please let me know? I'm planning on getting a breast augmentation but I'm scared this will happen to me.
- ANSWER:
  Yeah it could happen. It depends on how diligent you want to be on your research.
  
  People that have plastic surgery "go wrong" often are quick in their decision to do something -OR- they go to an office that says they'll do the procedure for hundreds of dollars less than what it really costs, so they think "Wow! That deal is too good to pass up, I'll do it here!"
  
  And then those are the people that wind up on the operating table, cut to pieces with a botched augmentation.
  
  I think you should go to a reputable doctor, who can recommend a reputable plastic surgeon. Find a few of them, then go and speak with them personally. Ask if there are any portfolios for you to view so you can see what kinds of work they've done.
  
  Obviously don't be stupid. Make sure the office is in a populated area, very clean, make sure the doctors are professional, speak with patients or other people in the waiting room. Don't get it done out of country, and don't take any "Special Deals."
  
  Take all the time you need in the research because its YOUR body and you could really mess it up.
  
  Also be aware, that after a few years, your breast augmentation isn't going to look very nice anyway. Implants will shift, decrease in size, your natural breast size may change due to weight gain, pregnancy, and it's common for a woman's breast to almost go "concave" in some areas and look very distorted. (I think they just showed a bunch of celebrities with deformed boobs now, due to augmentation.)
  
  You're going to have to continue getting them fixed if you want them perfect for life. Who wants to do that? It only increases your risk of having a botched surgery because you won't be with the same surgeon 10-20 years down the line.
  
  Make sure 100% that this is what you want to do.
QUESTION:
I'm considering Breast Augmentation?
Im 27 & after having my children I have gone from a full D to an empty C, I have got a lot of breast tissue and all I want is to fill the skin back up to D.
I would rather have small boobs over the Pam Anderson or Anna Nicole look.
Currently I just buy push up bra's and they look fine when clothed but I just want more, I want my hubby to drool when Im naked or in lingerie.
Oh, I'd better mention he does not think i need the surgery, But he has agreed to pay for them If thats what I really want.
Also worth a note, It is not for anyone but me... I have tatoos & feel the same about them too, I get them in secluded areas for me to look at not anyone else.

I would like to hear from women out there who have been thur what Im goin thru now.
Im so nervous about all the things that can go wrong, I have researched & done the pros and cons. Just can't balance them up.

Please don't bother leaving negitive messages if you dont agree with BA, Its not ur opinion im after.
Thanks
- ANSWER:
  I have been seriosuly researching augmentation since October after YEARS of planning on the surgery. My 'twin girls' are scheduled in 2 weeks!
  
  I am going to recommend this message board forum:
  
  http://www.justbreastimplants.com/forum/
  
  The women here are incredibly supportive and knowledgable about implants, and happily share their experiences. They make me feel very comfortable in the decision I have made and are fantastic. There are women who have done so much research, that they should be writing books! Someone will help guide you in the right direction to determine if augmentation is right for you. Then you'll do your own research and consult with a plastic surgeon. Even if you just read through post after post, you will gain a lot of knowledge to share with your husband.
  
  Best of luck to you!
QUESTION:
breast augmentation Yes or No?
Ladies... if you have had breast augmentation I would like to know how you feel now. Was it worth it? I have researched on the internet and it seems there are So Many things that can go wrong. It is quite scary.
- ANSWER:
  No don't do it Stand up and rage against the pop-culture machine that created this madness.
  Surgery should only be done when medically necessary. Surgery is not to be regarded as a casual experience and it always carries a certain amount of inherent risks.
  If you don't feel good about yourself spend the money you would have spent on surgery and give it to a therapist because the long-term results will make you happier.
QUESTION:
Should all women get breast augmentation?
Haha, sorry about that really retarded question, but I just saw this article and it kind of depressed me; also, I wanted your attention guys.

http://jezebel.com/5353717/men-notice-boobs-scientists-say

Anyways, if a girl is an AA, should she look into breast augmentation to a more-natural looking B? This is for myself, and I'm curious. Also, below I copied and pasted some more information, from another question I've asked. You can read that for more info about my case, if you'd like.

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I understand that, yes, personality and confidence are the things that make women beautiful, but nobody can deny that physical attraction is often what first draws people. Please don't give me lectures on personality and such, because yes, I understand. That's what's most important. Also, I know; if a guy loves you, he'll love every part of you. Cool. No more preaching please, and just answer the question. Below is more information too, so maybe you can take it into account as you're answering.

My dad is both Mexican and Spanish, and I have a curvaceous and athletic hourglass body, from both my genes, and dance, tennis, and lacrosse. I'm five-six, size zero, and my measurements are 34-24-34. My hip to waist ratio is seventy percent (roughly), and my BMI is 19 (which is perfectly healthy for me, according to my doctor, because I'm pretty petite.) However, I can't fill an A-cup (my mom is Korean and Japanese, so I have a more Asian-sized chest), and this makes me look slightly out of proportion because my butt is extremely large due to my working out (my friends have compared me to Heidi Montag and Kim Kardashian.) If I were to get a breast augmentation, I'd go to a world-renowned Beverly Hills surgeon, and go up to a B-cup so I would still be smaller than average (average now is 36C in America), and I would be able to not have to shop online, and I'd be able to fit into clothing and such. I'd also look like a true hourglass and not like a pear. If I love my body, work hard on it, and just want to make myself look more natural, would it be wrong to get a small surgery with the sole purpose of looking normal?

Also guys, could you be attracted to a girl with such a small chest?
- ANSWER:
  No all women should not get breast augmentation! I think I've read just about everything on the entire internet about men's opinions of small breasts (I'm 34B, but was 32A until a few years ago), and trust me, there are plenty of men out there who PREFER small breasts.
  
  You should check out the small breasts page on www.007b.com and look at the comments on the bottom of the page. The men who posted there are awesome!
QUESTION:
Blood Disorders and Breast Augmentation Surgery?
Hi! I'm a 19 yr old female that has recently been diagnosed with chronic ITP as well as possible having an overactive immune system. I'll be having a bone marrow biopsy within the next month to rule out anything else that might going wrong. Hopefully everything will turn out to be okay.
My main question is that for a very long time I've wanted a breast enlargement surgery. I have found a very respectable plastic surgeon and would really love to go forward with the surgery.
I was wondering if there has been documented cases of a women with chronic ITP having a successful breast augmentation surgery or anything that came up?
I would really love to hear what anyone has to say or knows of any information that would be helpful. Thanks!
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QUESTION:
My g/f recently had complications from a breast augmentation. Does she have a good malpractice case?
My girlfriend recently had complications from breast augmentation surgery. Does she have go a malpractice cas
After her initial sub-muscular breast enhancement surgery, my g/f complained of severe pain in her left arm. The pain increased throughout the day and was to the point that night where the max dose of pain medication was not even touching the pain. Her left breast was swollen more than 2xs the size of her right one. I called her doctor at 9:30 PM that night and he agreed to come look at her. After seeing her, he said he didn't know why her arm was hurting and that he didn't think anything was wrong, and that he would be back at 8 AM to check on her. At 5:30 AM, she passed out and became unresponsive. We calle 911 and the ambulance took her to the ER. It was determined that she had a Hematoma in her left breast, and emergency surgery was performed by her surgeon to correct the problem. Does she have a case of negligence, since the doctor said nothing was wrong when clearly she was in excrutiating pain and had such severe swelling? Shouldn't he have suspected hematoma?
- ANSWER:
  Hematoma is a known complication of surgery, and was undoubtedly on the lengthy surgical consent form that she signed (and probably initialed each page of).
  
  Not recognizing the hematoma might have been negligent, but you're going to have to prove damages, not from the hematoma itself, but from the delay in diagnosis. That is, if it had been evacuated at night instead of in the morning, something would have been dramatically different.
  
  I'm guessing that you'd have a very difficult time making a case for that, and an even more difficult time finding a lawyer to take the case. Not enough money in it.
QUESTION:
Be honest please; if a girl has a double-A chest, should she look into breast augmentation?
I understand that, yes, personality and confidence are the things that make women beautiful, but nobody can deny that physical attraction is often what first draws people. Please don't give me lectures on personality and such, because yes, I understand. That's what's most important. Also, I know; if a guy loves you, he'll love every part of you. Cool. No more preaching please, and just answer the question. Below is more information too, so maybe you can take it into account as you're answering.

My dad is both Mexican and Spanish, and I have a curvaceous and athletic hourglass body, from both my genes, and dance, tennis, and lacrosse. I'm five-six, size zero, and my measurements are 34-24-34. My hip to waist ratio is seventy percent (roughly), and my BMI is 19 (which is perfectly healthy for me, according to my doctor, because I'm pretty petite.) However, I can't fill an A-cup (my mom is Korean and Japanese, so I have a more Asian-sized chest), and this makes me look slightly out of proportion because my butt is extremely large due to my working out (my friends have compared me to Heidi Montag and Kim Kardashian.) If I were to get a breast augmentation, I'd go to a world-renowned Beverly Hills surgeon, and go up to a B-cup so I would still be smaller than average (average now is 36C in America), and I would be able to not have to shop online, and I'd be able to fit into clothing and such. I'd also look like a true hourglass and not like a pear. If I love my body, work hard on it, and just want to make myself look more natural, would it be wrong to get a small surgery with the sole purpose of looking normal?

Also guys, could you be attracted to a girl with such a small chest?
And I'm confident, and think everything else about me is beautiful. My chest is the only thing that I have slight issues with, and I've thought about this surgery for a few years. I'd still wait a few years to see if maybe I'd start feeling better, but yeah. What are your thoughts and opinions?
I'm an AA.
- ANSWER:
  i believe that a girl is beautiful just the way she is. (:
QUESTION:
My girlfriend recently had complications from breast augmentation surgery. Does she have go a malpractice cas
After her initial sub-muscular breast enhancement surgery, my g/f complained of severe pain in her left arm. The pain increased throughout the day and was to the point that night where the max dose of pain medication was not even touching the pain. Her left breast was swollen more than 2xs the size of her right one. I called her doctor at 9:30 PM that night and he agreed to come look at her. After seeing her, he said he didn't know why her arm was hurting and that he didn't think anything was wrong, and that he would be back at 8 AM to check on her. At 5:30 AM, she passed out and became unresponsive. We calle 911 and the ambulance took her to the ER. It was determined that she had a Hematoma in her left breast, and emergency surgery was performed by her surgeon to correct the problem. Does she have a case of negligence, since the doctor said nothing was wrong when clearly she was in excrutiating pain and had such severe swelling? Shouldn't he have suspected hematoma?
- ANSWER:
  Hematoma is a generalized term for a collection of blood. The Doctor saw no fault in the breast augmentation itself so I guess he was reluctant to give any other diagnosis so as not to condemn his work. If you Sue him what will you be actually suing him for? Is there a Doctor willing to stand up in court and testify against him and do you have the money to pay costs if you lose?
QUESTION:
Breast Augmentation questions?
Next year, when I'm 18, or a couple years later, I was thinking of getting a boob job cause I'm SICK of only being size A. What's the most it can cost? and What things can go wrong? (In worst case scenario)
- ANSWER:
  Melanie, all breast implants go wrong. That is because by their very definition they look fake and tacky and feel horrible.
  
  The best thing you can do is love yourself for who you are. Real small breasts are more attractive than fake large ones.
  
  They also carry a risk of infection, leakage and have to be replaced in the future. The surgery is also very painful
  
  Edit: Sorry, anyone who says that breast implants look natural needs a good dose of anatomy study and a redefinition of the phrase "natural". Any part of the body that doesn't sag or more like living tissue (because it isn't) cannot ever be considered natural.
QUESTION:
Why are WOMEN so dumb and get breast implants/lip augmentation?
WOMEN, these surgeries look AWFUL from a man's perspective. TRUST US.

-we would rather you have A/B cups than D cups that sag down to your stomache.

-we would rather you have breasts that look natural, than two waterbags

-we would be more attracted to you if when we're massaging your breasts, we feel you and not some bag of saline

-we can tell if they are fake from 5 miles away, fake breasts tend to push away from eachother and leave a big gap where cleavage should be. this isnt attractive.

if you are going to get breast implants, get the smallest ones possible. but honestly it isnt helping any aside from some 'initial attention' (which you will get from the wrong guys)

source: www.awfulplasticsurgery.com
sorry about the DUMB remark

women arent dumb
- ANSWER:
  I perosnally dont think women need to have implants... (personal preferance)
  
  I think girls are fine as they are....
QUESTION:
CAN YOU RECOMMEND A PLASTIC SURGEON SPECIALISING IN CORRETIVE SURGERY?
Hiya! thats for choosing to take a look at my question. I had the unfortunate luck of going to a cowboy surgeon in belgium (wellness kliniek) who has ruined my breasts and left me with hideous scars. I wondered i anyone can recommend a plastic surgeon specialising in corrective surgery for breast augmentations that have gone wrong in the UK? i know there are many in america but i cannot seem to find any in the UK and i live here.

I would really appreciate your help.
oh and i wanted to say that you can read xperiences of my story if you want to on lookyourbest plastic surgery forum as well as sofeminine my username on lyb is girl20 and sofem is girl2288 x
- ANSWER:
  Take a look at Rate MD UK. It will at least give you ratings (by patients) for plastic surgeons in your area . Go to the link below, click on your area (e.g. Wales) and then do an advanced search for cosmetic/plastic surgery.
QUESTION:
Is my husband wrong for going, or am I being dramatic?
hey yall, so my husband is going home for thanksgiving and i cannot go with him. now, any other time i would not care, but i cannot believe he is going because one, our financial situation is crippled by the airline ticket, two, he wants to take our 3month old son with him to a home that i have never been to but have been told by my husband is not what i would consider to be clean, and three i do not have my drivers license and will be driving from work to home unlicensed and uninsured. i cannot believe he is this selfish to spend a good chuck of his money on the ticket, to go to a dirty home with our son and leave me to hope to not be stopped by the cops for the 10 days he will be gone. plus i know my husbands brother, he is deadbeat and at 25 is still living at home with their mother. he is going to ask my husband to buy things, and i dont think he will be able to say no. this is just so selfish to me. i am so hurt that he would leave in the situation we are in just to go home because he hasnt been in over a year, I try to emphasize that we (three of us) are a family. they may be there for him, but his ultmate responsibility is to his wife and his son.

to give you all his side of the story, his grandmother is turning 100 years old on thanksgiving, so she may not have alot of time left. she has never seen our son before, and she did help raise my husband for several years when he was growing up.
...but i still dont care. i know its a very bitchy thing to say, but say she does die, right? then what was the point of having her look at my baby just to say she did look at him. it makes no difference, plus acccording to hubby she has a super bad memory and cant remember things on a day-to-day basis. there is no point in all of this.
one thing my husband always tries to throw in my face is that ive gone home 2x in the last year. but the first time was to tell my parents i was pregnant, to which my mum said, "well it could always be worse, at least you don't have AIDS". the second was 3 weeks after having our son. his mother had planned to come out, but i decided to go home because i was starting to feel very sad and gloomy for no reason (postpartum depression) - that, and i dont fancy his mum too much. he makes it seem like i went on vacation. not the case, my vagina HURT, and i needed my mother there to help me and not have to deal with any sarcastic comments concerning my body (he was making some really hurtful comments concerning me nursing - he thought it was funny, but it would make me cry from all the emotions/ hormones in my body)

one thing is for sure, my husband better not say shit to me when i get my breast augmentation this coming summer. . .
- ANSWER:
  Where are you getting the money for a boob job in the summer?
  Why don't you get your drivers license, its cheaper than going to jail I hear?
  ....your Vagina hurt??
QUESTION:
What do you think of breast implants and should I get them?
Hi there. I'm 23 years old. I'm 5'5" my bra size is 34A and planning to go to a 34C. But the problem is that I've been wanting to undergo breast augmentation since I can remember. Even though people see me as beautiful, I'm still bothered by this idea of getting breast implants. The reason on why I want this is because I believe it will help me have some confidence whenever wearing nice clothes. Although I've never been in a two-piece swimsuit, that is the reason on why I wanna get implants so I get the attention and opinions that other girls like me get. I always see my brothers and guy friends ogling at girls with bigger boobs and it makes me feel like I've being completely floored and overshadowed. My body is OK, I work out every day and I sport a quite slim but fit body, but when I go to the store and see swimsuits I'm like:"That is not for me," even though nothing is wrong. Whenever I hear the word "swimsuit" the first thing that omes to my mind is that I need bigger boobs to look nice in one, and that they are not suited for flat-chested girls. But I wanna feel and look hot and sexy for summer time. I know that I'm old enough to get a procedure like that, even though I have NOT been to a plastic surgeon's office. But at the same time, I try not to become extremely obsessive about this. Should I get breast implants or not? Would it be worth it? Will it change my life?
- ANSWER:
  I think you should. I had breast implants 6 years ago for similar reasons.
QUESTION:
Is it wrong to be a pro-choice Republican?
I consider myself Republican on all issues except when it comes to abortion. Is it not a Religious issue for me even though I've grown up through private schools. The way I look at it is more like population control. I'd rather see women aborting their unborn babies than sitting at home sucking off the government. Either because they don't know who the baby's daddy is or they are not financially stable to afford having a child. I heard of one mom who had 3 kids and refused to put the father's name on the birth certificate so she could get welfare without having to go through child support first. Now the state took the kids away because of her irresponsibility and the father (who can't take the kids because he's too lazy to get a DNA test) had no problem with his kids going into state custody. Why do lower middle class get rewarded for irresponsibility. Another sceanario: Single mother works part-time, is on government aid, drives a Lexus, goes to school for free, and gets breast augmentation with her tax refund. My sceanario: I think it's a sin to have a bastard child, I'm working full time and paying my own way through college and I wouldn't even dare have a child until my husband and I are financial stable enough. Am I the one who's wrong?
Although I obviously voted for McCain/Palin they were for a bill to take contraceptives like birth control pills off of our health care coverage. True Blue Republicans think that it's ok to keep popping out kids after you've been married. I'm not sure I even want kids, I really don't like them that much!
But once welfare runs out, just pop out another kid and you can re-apply.
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QUESTION:
My wife is 2 and 1/2 weeks post-op, and she still feels dizzy and messed up in the head! What could be wrong.?
My wife has been dizzy, weak, no appetite and just plain feels terrible ever since her breast augmentation on April 17th, 2009. Could it be an overdose of anesthesia or something? I don't know what is going on! Her Doctor has done all kinds of tests( blood work, ekg, chest X-ray, urine test, and blood pressure is fine, no high temp. Everything but an MRI and even her surgeon has said that everything has heals perfectly with her breasts!

Now, after 2 weeks of this she has gotten depressed so her Doctor put her on lexapro(antidepressant) and since then has gotten more symptoms and seem to be getting worse everyday that she takes it!

PLEASE, SOMEBODY GIVE ME SOME SUGGESTIONS!
- ANSWER:
  you do not give someone lexapro for a 2 week history of depression.
  
  lexapro side effects---dizzy, weak, no appetite
  
  feeling a little out of sorts for a week after anesthesia is not uncommon and there is not medical indication to give antidressants for that!!!
  
  how long did she take narcotic painkillers after the surgery? a week?
  also- not uncommon to feel out of sorts after taking it for a week- could be a physical withdrawl that you just need to ride out.
  
  stop taking the meds, get out and about as much as possible, walk, buy new clothes for your new boobs. (that's how i got over it)
  
  edit
  you *could* find a different doctor, but they have done a fantasic job of ruling out any physical reason. the antidepressants was just stupid. some doctors feel compelled to write a script for every symptom known to man. not necessary.
QUESTION:
Cosmetic Surgery for a Military Spouse?
I know that a service member is allowed one cosmetic surgery while in the military, but what about the spouse?

I have really low self esteem when it comes to my breasts. Every time I look at them I always see something wrong, (i.e.: they're not big enough, they're not perky enough, my nipples don't look like they're in the right place). I would like to get a breast augmentation, but I currently live in Germany and I would not like to go off base to a civilian clinic.

Does anyone (current, non or former military) have any information that could help me out?
free plastic surgery isn't a reason to join the military. sorry oc_boomer.
okay michael f - the military will only do one cosmetic surgery for service members. that i know.

i'm asking about spouses-a military wife. like me! duh.

if i had a link supplying information about cosmetic surgeries in the military....don't you think i would have skipped out on asking this question?
- ANSWER:
  I have heard about military dependents getting plastic surgery, but it was on an experimental basis so that new doctors can practice on you. There is NO WAY in He*l you could get me to sign up for that! Military doctors have a bad enough reputation as it is.
  
  Next time you go to your OB/GYN, ask. Maybe they have information. Still, I would never go to a military doctor for elective surgery.
  
  Save your money and you might have enough saved up once you get back to the States. Or, come home for an extended visit and do it while you're here. The recovery time for surgery is about a week so plan for at least that long.
  
  Start looking for surgeons near your hometown online and let them know when you'll be in town. Make an appointment to see at least 3 different doctors (it would be better to have 4 or 5 consultations). You might not get an appointment for surgery right away, but some will do one within a week or two.
  
  As for the person who wanted to know about service members getting cosmetic surgery... You can't have it just because you want it, there must be a medical need. I know of a woman who was in an accident and her breasts were damaged, so she had cosmetic surgery on her breasts (including implants). It happens, but it's not a reason to join the military by any means.
QUESTION:
how to convince my mother about plastic surgery?
Hello, please do not take this wrong ! My mother is 46 years old and her husband 8 years younger, she keeps telling me that she feels insecure with her body due to 3 kids and her husband being younger than her ( i have seen young girls cheking him out) and it bothers me . They have been married for about 20 years but things are getting difficult between then now since she does not look as young as she used to and even if my stepfather seems to love my mother, sometimes i feel that he reject her because of her body image and so i want my mother to look go so she can kick him out and feel confident with herself. I believe that people have to look good for their partners. I personally had breast augmentation 6 months ago ( I'm 25) because I was very flat and I always wanted to feel more secure about that part of my body (woman with plastic surgery are going to understand me) so I keep telling my mother that she needs an upgrade on her chest and tummy but instead she wants to expend money in a new nissan pathfinder.I know that she wants to get surgery too but she seems to care more about her appearance in a new car than in a new body which i find stupid, she always put her body image in a second plase. I keep telling her that her marriage is going to end if she does not do something or even worst, her husband is going to go away with a woman his age and she is going to end all alone and old. Now my question is, how can i convince her that what she needs is surgery to stop feeling older and infirior? how can i get in to her mind and make her understand that she is not ugly or old and that she is capable of looking better and so find a better partner?
thank you
thank you
he keeps on telling her how fat she is and how her chest and stomach are getting worst with time so i feel bad for her,( i want her to feel and look good and kick him out for her oun sake ... does not matter how much you feel young inside if your mirrow is telling you all the opposite
thank you for your time
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QUESTION:
I REALLLYY need a womans advise!!!!!?
I'm seventeen years old I'm 5'8 and 119 lbs. I'm having a big problem with my confidence, everyone thinks I'm just the skinny girl. It seems stupid but I have really small breasts and I'm not shaped very womanly. I have a boyfriend who thinks I have a great body but I just don't like it. I feel terrible about myself and a lot of people think I'm 12 or 13. I'm sick of feeling this way and I feel like there's nothing I can do to make myself feel good. I just don't like my body and I think I'm to skinny but I eat all the time, there's nothing wrong with my eating habits. I'm considering breast augmentation in the next year or so if my breasts don't develop I'm a 31A. My mom doesn't support my decision at all so what should I do. I think I deserve to feel good about myself so I'm not going to listen to her.
Gender Change?! Why would I want to do something like that? I said I want bigger breasts not a man's body!
- ANSWER:
  I think all of us women have body issues (too short, too fat, boobs too small, butt too big, etc.) I've heard a lot of supermodels (yes, supermodels) say that when they were in their teens, they were teased about being skinny. You may still have some growing to do and that includes your breasts. I would give it a little bit of time before you consider augmentation. As the "short, chunky girl with glasses", it really used to bother me what everyone said (I even had guys bark at me in PE in high school). But when I got to be a little bit older, I decided that the people who gave me crap about my body shape (I am built just like my mom,not much you can do about that), were losers, and I looked at what I did like about myself. I have a perfect nose - just perfect. I have amazing green eyes. I have discovered that some guys like the fact I am short and chunky. They like my personality. I am a loving, kind, caring person, a great friend, and now, a really good mother. So, believe in yourself and that you are beautiful. My best friend is very small busted, and let me tell you, when she turned 19, she had guys lined up to date her (and no, she wasn't putting out for any of them), because she was outgoing and pretty and fun, and it didn't matter what size her boobs were. I've also read articles about actresses who are very famous now, who are tall and were also teased about their boobs and height and so on, and now everyone wants to be just like them. It will get better, and when you get a little older, if you decide to get breast augmentation, then do it. However, it sounds like your boyfriend thinks you are built just right and unless you think he's a total idiot (and you sound way too smart to date some tool), you might try listening to him. Not meaning to go on so long, but I did an experiment with a friend of mine. She is absolutely beautiful, perfect figure, beautiful face, ect. She and I went out to a club, and I dressed up nice, and walked in with the, "I am the hottest woman here and I OWN the place" attitude. ANd guess what? Me, the short, chunky girl with glasses had guys lined up to dance with me. My friend danced too, but even she was like, whoa, what's up? It was all attitude. Self confidence is beautiful. I'll bet you are just amazing. Hope this helps.
QUESTION:
Plastic Surgery- The Hospital Group! Are they any good?
Hi has anyone out there had surgery by the Hospital Group? I am going for a consultation for Breast Augmentation on tuesday. I have been waiting since I was 13 for my breasts to bless me with womanhood but it never happened. I have saved up and I'm now ready to take the plunge. Just want to know if they're as reputable as they reckon they are. The price is reasonable and it includes 25 year guarentee on the implants, 3 years after care so if anything goes wrong they will repair the damage, they pick you up and take you to the hospital and take you home again. This all sounds great as many others that I've looked into don't include anything other than the operation. Everything else is extra. I'm going to see my Dr for some advise on Monday but just thought i'd like to hear some 1st hand advise from you guys.

Any sensable feedback would be great.
Thanks
- ANSWER:
  My friend had surgery with them and thought they were really really great. So professional and nice and understanding with their patients. The only problem that she has found is contacting them afterwards - she cannot get in touch with them very easily. This is probably because they are so busy especially now with all the Anne Diamond adverts. I think they are reputable. Good luck with your new boobs x
QUESTION:
Does God really care about your body or does he really care about your soul?
I mean, when we die, our bodies will go six feet under and rot. God won’t take the body with him. So why do some religions believe that changing your body in any shape or form (tattoo, breast augmentation, collagen, etc) is a sin when it’s the soul that needs to be clean of impurity?

And…

If a fellow Christian woman suffers from obesity and decides one day to get her but off the couch and do something about it, she works out, eats healthy and loses weight. Her skin starts to sag but she is young and would like to look healthy and young so she goes to a doctor and they suggest surgery but they also suggest breast implants (to help perk her up) and in between other things to help her look like the beautiful young woman that she is. Would you say that she is wrong? Should she have stayed with her sagging skin to keep her body pure just for God?

I mean, someone did say that changing your body is against what God thinks is right then; would she be wrong for doing so?
- ANSWER:
  I know that some faiths are against organ donation because they believe when the messiah comes everyone (the righteous) will be resurrected. The reason for the prohibition is that your not going to be able to be resurrected without your organs.
  
  Imo, the woman is not "wrong" and can and should do whatever makes her happy (But, I would prefer natural and saggy to synthetic implants any day of the week.). Again, it terms of how a person looks...I just don't think (and I know and respect that others will disagree with me) that it's a consideration for a being that is omnipotent and omnibenevolent (e.g. why would an all powerful being be concerned about whether people are perky or not?).
  
  It's interesting the different views though (my view is whatever floats someones boat). My mother used to say when asked why she did not dye her grey hair: "Because this is how G-d made me".
QUESTION:
Is my sister jealous of my life?
I am 26 and I have a sister who is 32. For the last few years, I have developed the distinct feeling that she is jealous of me. I think it all started when she was diagnosed with a bi polar disorder when she was 23 or 24. At the time, I had a boyfriend who treated me great, though I was going through a lot of tough stuff myself. I think she has always resented the fact that she is sick and I am not. Our relationship has been strained for a very long time, but in the last year, it has become terrible. I have a 5 year old and a 1 year old, and I feel that she is envious of the fact that I have children, and that she, because of her immaturity(possibly due to her illness?), and lack of grown up relationship, feels she probably never will. Don't get me wrong, she is not some raving lunatic. In fact, she has not had a manic or depressive episode in 5 years. She is just very immature, irrational, illogical, and hypocritical. In August of last year, I got engaged to a wonderful man who treats me and our children(my 5 year old is from a different guy) so nicely. He is amazing. I told my sister of my idea to get married on the beach in a very small ceremony, and celebrate with a reception with friends and family later on. She did not like that idea. Said it was stupid. My whole point was to have a ceremony that was inexpensive, but also romantic. I did not want to get married in a courthouse. Well, we decided on the beach wedding, spur of the moment while on vacation. Only my parents and my husband's mother attended, along with our kids. My parents said I should not tell her beforehand for fear that she whould try to get to the beach for the wedding, and she has no license due to multiple DUIs. So, we told her after the fact, and she got so upset, saying it was because she was not there and felt hurt. I think the real reason was that she was jealous of the fact that I got married to a great guy, and she is currently dating someone who dumps her every few weeks. Needless to say, that really put a strain on our relationship. We rarely talk, and when we do, I always get something negative from her. Now, I am planning on having breast augmentation in late March, due to the damage that nursing and pregnancy with two babies has done to my breasts. She has nothing but negative things to say about this. We are using our tax refund to pay for it, and my husband and I both agree that it's a good thing to do with the money. My sister says I'm superficial, and shouldn't spend money on that. She made a facebook post on my wall about it, rather than voicing her concerns to me directly. Then when I responded, she emailed me saying I sound pathetic trying to defend my decision to her. I was only trying yo explain my reasons because she obviously does not understand. She told me not to respond to that email, which shows me that she wants to be heard, but is not willing to hear what I have to say. Should I just cut her off completely, or try to talk to her? I feel like it does not matter what I say to her. It's like talking to a brick wall. I would not mind if I never see her or talked to her again, but I know that's not possible because of my parents. By the way, her breasts are in worse shape than mine, so I think my having this surgery really put the last nail in the coffin for her. What should I do?
- ANSWER:
  Yes. Yes she is. You must do something about this. Sit down and share your emotions and feelings deeply with and to her. Let her understand how you are feeling, and that she shod act more like a big sister, not the other way round. If she still carries on, then it's probably best to forget her and move her. She is either taking her anger out on you, or just really sick. Either way, you must push past what he thinks of you, and don't even consider her opinions. G'luck.
QUESTION:
Do dreams ever come true? Someone, help me?
I feel embarassed writing about this, but I don't want to give up. I am auctioning off this sculpture that I made in highschool, it is symbolic of how I saw myself...how I still see myself. People don't understand why I "try too hard to be nice to everyone". Oddly enough I have lost friends over it. I feel like I have to work extra hard to prove I am a good and valuable person, because I hate my body, I feel ugly, feel like a freak. I only developed 1 of my breasts and I am so insecure because of it. I feel like I don't even know who I am inside, because my body came out all wrong. I am an artist and I am drawn to beautiful things. I cannot see myself as beautiful. I ALMOST had a breast augmentation paid for...please see the link for the details. I really just want to be normal, I want to find out who I am inside, my body has really been holding me back. I am ashamed to go to beaches. I don't feel equal to other women, I can hardly call myself a woman.
here is the link to my auction:

http://cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll?ViewItem&item=290249621676
- ANSWER:
  Everyone is insecure about something. It's almost normal to "feel like a freak". Maybe some people will tell you you should be happy the way you are...and you should. But if theres a way to help YOU get there than do it! If it makes you feel better about yourself than confidence will follow. Women are catty, thats no joke. I'm not bitter, I'm honest. I have been lucky by pure genetics. Have always disliked those who were mean to those who were differnt, not the norm. Those are the people who in the long run (if theres karma) suffer. Good luck to you.
QUESTION:
Marriage is at a stand still.....How to know if im insane?
LONG story short.
Bottom line..My mother is a manic depressant. And other things that i do not know because she left when i was little. I have an amazing life. Great son, great husband. enough money to be "comfortable" i guess.

But i have problems. My family is all going down hill. My dad was a bad one. I have grown up watching everyone around me, raising my siblings. I am obsessed with analyzing why people do what they do....their own problems and how i can help. To this day i have never been wrong on my analysis..Besides my own.
I never know when i am having rational thoughts. I freak out on my husband. I cry. I am not happy. I went to a shrink. I got on pills. I got off because there was no difference. I am scared to death every single day i am going to wake up and leave my family and be a crazy person like my mother.

So my question is. If i am always right about the things around me. The people around me (People are amazed at how well i can assess a situation, a person, all these things and be right!!). How do i know when i am wrong about the observations in my own life? Why is the glass always always half empty? Why do i constantly need physically attention, why do i have the needs of a two year old when it comes to attention i need from my husband. IF i dont get happy. Positive. I am going to lose everything. Please help me. I know i need to see a shrink again.

My own observation is. I know my issues have gotten worse in the last six months. I was social and its starting to decline. I am unhappy so i have focused on what i am good at..Looking pretty. Spending lots of money to look good for my husband. Gym, breast augmentation, botox...knowing i was trying to fix my exterior so he wouldn't see the interior. Basically now i think that i feel i have so much to lose that i am always scared of losing it. I can't just live. I am always thinking of 'what ifs'(by the way my first husband died from a brain injury).

avoidant personality disorder?

P.S. I am all over the place and im sorry. I just have so much to say and dont know how to keep it short.
- ANSWER:
  Are you certain that you are not manic depressive? You had a parent who was, which increases the likelihood that you are as well. It seems to me that you need further assessment about this. You should speak to not one, but several medical doctors and psychologists. Get more than one opinion, but get this figured out because this could be in part a medical problem.
  
  My other assessment of your situation is that you focus WAY too much on what's wrong with life. Your assessments may be accurate much of the time, but they seem to constantly focus on the negative. You used the analogy of "the glass is half empty". It's a good one for your situation because it looks at a scenario that one person perceives one way and another perceives another way. Notice that the situation doesn't change - it's just how two different people perceive the situation. I'm a firm believer that what you focus on drives your life. If you focus on negative things, it will make everything in your experience negative. Focus on what's working and what's good in your life and it will change your outlook entirely.
  
  You've had your share of bad things happening to you in life, but you have to make a decision about what your future is going to be like. You sound like you're a very beautiful woman who has a great family, a comfortable life and lots going for her. Be thankful for those things because not everyone has them. Don't take what you have for granted and try to find joy in the little things and FORGET about the "what if's". If they come into your mind, just shoo them out - refuse to focus on them. You won't be able to enjoy anything if you're always worried that something could go wrong.
  
  This may be partly medical, but it's also your mentality about life. Do yourself a favor and work at this. It won't be easy or come naturally to you, but as you say - you'll lose everything if you don't.
QUESTION:
A question for the transgender community about Virginia Prince?
As many people within the transgender community are aware of, Virginia Prince died a few days ago at age 96. Prince was one of the more prominent and controversial figures within the trans community. She was loved, hated, and sometimes both.

As a crossdresser, I have a lot of mixed feelings about her. On one hand, I do commend her for having the courage to live life how she wanted and how she helped crossdressers form a community in a time where crossdressing or any perception of it was illegal in many places. She also made a lot of positive contributions in how the general public saw the trans community.

Transgender was a term originally coined by Prince to describe somebody like her who lived full time as the opposite sex without making permanent medical changes (a concept that Prince all but violated). Many in the HBS camp detest the shift in denotation to include them in the tern transgender, as I'm sure that Prince equally detested them being included.

However, I can't ignore her blatant prejudices, the riffs she helped perpetuate in the trans community, and most of all her hyprocracies. As much as she contributed positively to the trans community, there was also a lot of negative aspects:

-For one, she was a complete homophobe and ensured that Tri-ess, the group that caters to heterosexual crossdressers, excluded bisexual and gay crossdressers. If you were found to be gay or bi, you were booted. However, she adored the attention she got from male admirers and even flirted with them. It has also been rumored but never confirmed that Prince had sexual relations with men.

-She blasted transsexuals up and made many ignorant comments about them, particularly anything to do with surgery. Prince also ensured that any transsexual was excluded from Tri-ess. Yet Prince did take hormones (prescribed by no less than Harry Benjammin himself), had electrolysis and breast augmentation. Physically, there was little if any difference between her and a pre-op or non-op transsexual.

-Argued that there is no sexual aspect for a "true crossdresser" while being a major fan of she-male porn.

-Had a very mysoginistic view of women and expected members of Tri-ess to behave in an outmoded and sexist "lady-like" way. Tri-ess was supposed to help crossdressers develop their feminine selves as a compliment to their masculine selves, but Prince lived full-time as a woman for over 40 years.

-There are many others.

While many people in the trans community would argue that Prince was the darling of crossdressers, I would have to disagree. While I acknowledge her place in trans history and hopes she rests in true peace, I don't look up to her as a role mode and I most certainly have nothing to do with Tri-ess. I know she would have problems with me since I only like to have a tasteful feminine look (without cleavage or modifying my voice) but keeping my male identity intact regardless of how I dress.

I am a straight crossdresser who can't see myself transitioning or living full time as a woman. However, I don't see anything wrong with bi or gay crossdressers. Having met a number of MTF and FTM transsexuals in real life, I know that they do have a complete mismatch between their bodies and minds and that medically transitioning is the proper course for them given that they go through the proper steps. I also don't see anything wrong with being any other "in-between" trans identity, such as a genderqueer, androgynus, transgenderist, etc. So long as those people are true to who they are, accepting of others, not hyprocrites, and all around good people, they are a-ok in my book.

I hope the trans community can look upon Prince and her life in general as lessons learned as well as what and what not to do. I would like to hear from other trans-identified people in terms of their opinions towards Prince and how the trans community can move beyond the prejudiced attitudes that Prince and many others had or still have. All are welcome to answer, including those from the HBS camp who see transsexuality as distinct and separate from being transgender. All I ask is that everybody gives answers that are thoughtful, tasteful, and respectful of those who have different opinions. Constructive criticisms are welcome, but please don't display a "holier than thou" attitude. I know this is a long question, but please read all of it before answering.
Correction: Prince coined the term transgenderist, which transgender evolved out of.
- ANSWER:
  I have four word to describe Charles "Virginia" Prince they are "HE WAS AN IDIOT"
  
  Woman Born Transsexual Now Cisgendered
QUESTION:
My husband stopped being intimate with me in every way!! What do I do?
My husband and I have been married for four years now and for the past three years he has stopped having anything to do with me intimately and sexually. We are sexual about every 17 to 20 weeks and it is killing me! I have sat him down and poured my heart out to him, crying and begging him to please tell me what is going on. The only thing he says is that he doesn't know what is wrong with him, but he just isn't interested in sex or intimacy at all. He has no impotency problems because we had that checked. The doctor gave him some Cialis, but he won't take it. We went to couples counseling once, but, he won't continue going. I am so in love with my husband and all I do is fantasize about making love to him. I cry myself to sleep at night. We sleep in separate bedrooms and have for almost two years! It doesn't bother him in the least. He claims that he is still in love with me, but he absolutely does NOT show it. He says he WILL start showing it, but he NEVER does. It is ripping my heart out. I don't know what to do. I am at my whits in! I am athletic and even had a breast augmentation to help to be more attractive to him, to no avail. I don't know what to do anymore. I have told him that I cannot take it anymore and that I cannot live with a husband that doesn't want me. All he says is that he will try, but, he never does. What do I do? Do I just give up? My heart is breaking. He is only giving me 10% while I am giving 110%. Please, please, tell me what to do. I have practically begged him!!! I am so tired of not being wanted. The neglect is making me feel so ugly...so unwanted. Please,someone out there tell me what to do. We NEVER had this problem when we were dating. Please, help me.... Desperate to keep my marriage.
- ANSWER:
  My heart goes out to you, I was in the exact same situation. We had been married 28years and it happened and like you I begged and pleaded for US to get help. This went on for years. He just said he was no longer interested in sex at all not with me or anyone else. As it turned out and I hate to say this, he had been cheating on me for years with different women, he worked overseas and it was easy for him. Ask him outright, tell him how it is making you feel and ask him if he is prepared to lose you over him not getting help for his problem. It might sound hard but you have to ask yourself if you can live the rest of your married life without intimacy.
QUESTION:
why do men get so upset about the circumcision topic?
I expressed my personal opinion about this topic and had a few nasty e-mails sent to me. (I'm going to consider that harassment in the future)

I'm not asking for reasons why it is bad, or why it is good. I just want to understand why some men get so incredibly passionate about the topic.

For the record I expressed my personal opinion (note: I say personal opinion. And we are all entitled to our own opinion. I am in no way shape or form saying that anyone is wrong) Anyway! My opinion was that I thought it looked nicer. I did NOT say it was dirty, I did NOT say it was gross or ugly to not have it done, simply I thought it looked nicer.

Before I get any ranting and raving (I'm looking for real civilized answers please) I just want to say that Just because I think it looks nicer, does NOT mean that I think all men should have it done. I also would NEVER expect a man to do it just because I think it looks better. I compare it to when a woman gets a boob job. It's about how it looks. Some men like how a woman looks with breast augmentation. Would I ever do it? no. Does this make them terrible people? I personally don't think so! Would I love a man any less if he wasn't cut? Of course not.

Anyway! If anyone can please tell me to ease my genuine curiosity. What is it about this topic that angers people so much?

And perhaps I will not express my opinion about the topic in the future, as I had no intention of insulting people.

Additional note: Please do not recommend that I get a female circumcision... it has already been said... and has nothing to do with my question...

Thank you
I never said they were wrong. Please read and understand all of my question. I want to understand why it is a hot topic. is is phycological? is it that they are mad that they had no choice when they were babies? is it becuase the thought of a knife getting close to their sensitive parts makes you cringe? personal experiance? I simply dont understand, and want to understand..
once again, regarding the nasty e-mails and suggestions about me getting circumcised, That has nothing to do with my question. This is not a personal thing. I'm trying to see physiologically why...

Thank you to everyone with legitimate answers
(Thank you to others with great answers! I gave you thumbs up! It will be hard to choose best answer! Particularity “damaged his pride” “Most guys get highly upset/emotional/offended/defensive when it comes to their manhood.” “Imagine that you had nothing to say about it. Imagine that it was done to you by the people who are supposed to protect you. Imagine all this was done for absolutely no good reason.” Thank you these are the kinds of answers I am looking for…
"it's like if i went around and said a vagina with it's **** and labia intact was not my favorite and told people to cut those parts off just bc *I* said so...doesn't that sound a bit ridiculous and pathetic?"

for the record I did not ask anyone to cut off any parts of their body. In fact I specified that in the question. dont put words in my mouth... and it still has nothing to do with my question. (what you said before that was fairly relevent. so thank you for that.)
- ANSWER:
  Hi Kimma, touchy subject isn't it? l see what your trying to say. In answer to your question,
  people react strongly because they feel they have been violated without consent, and carry that inside them. So when the subject comes up and something said can be taken the wrong way [not that you did that though] then the are 'unsure what you meant' thing, doesn't get answered ,and ties in with the cutties insecurity.
  I was the only one circumstized in our family, because l had an infection when l was one year old and they advised it to my parents, to help clear it up.I'd ppreferif they hadn't though,looks and sensitivity wise that is.Oh well, l still love myself anyway and can perform normally in love making. Nothing to get upset over now. Thanks for sharing.
QUESTION:
Should I flirt with my plastic surgeon?
I am in total awe over my plastic surgeon, a very respectable Beverly Hills,CA doctor *a younger one; he's not that old*. I recently had a breast augmentation and have been going to a lot of post-ops and see him quite a bit. He has told me I am pretty in more than one occasion. He has also asked me about my relationship status(single) and wanted to know why, I told him I was too young to be in relationships. I really am young, early 20's...lol..maybe 20. Anyway I like him and want to date him. Is this wrong? Is there a law of ethics on this for doctors? BTW he is not married!
What would you do? Should I go for it?
- ANSWER:
  A males point of view. Life is to short. are you attracted to him? Do you have anything in common other than you both have seen you naked. What are you waiting for?
  I say go for it you only live once and if you don't there will always be regrets.
QUESTION:
is cosmetic surgery a bad idea?
I am tall, and good looking. in a well paid job, good education. Now, I want to improve my outlook. I have money to spend. I want to go for breast augmentation ( i am only 32B), new stem cell based, which moves tummy fat to bust. and want few more procedures like laser hair removal, and may be facial filler for better skin etc.
is it a bad thinking? I have achieved a lot, and now i want to make myself happy by enhancing my looks. Yeh, I got divorced too , and think if I am better looking i can find someone more easily..But, what is wrong with this thinking?
- ANSWER:
  I think there is nothing wrong with that thinking, you sound emotionally estable, is just to improve what you already have, just do your homework as people say and research a bit about the procedures that you want and the plastic surgeon who is going to work with you. Here you can read more about all that http://www.aestheticandplastic.com/procedures/index.php
  
  All the best!!!
QUESTION:
Living with Gender Identity Issues, practical advice?
I know I am a woman. I was born a male. I would like to ask for considered, practical advice on my situation that takes my individual circumstances into account. My concerns are, family, school, work, social, love, and financial.

My family is very bigoted. They do not like anyone who isn't straight, white and catholic, and that's very sad. They think gays are pedophiles. This means I will be disowned and never see my nieces and nephews again if they ever find out I like men and should be a woman. I love them like my own children, the knowledge I will loose them is unbearable. I can't hold on; I won't let go. It is a toxic environment, but it's the only one I know.

I spend most of my time alone studying in law school, but it is hard to focus. Everyone else seems to have boyfriends, girlfriends, go to social events or just out drinking/whatever it is people do. Some of them are getting married, having kids, and moving on with their lives. I feel like I am wasting my youth.

At some point, I want to be a lawyer. I've worked hard to get here and I'm very good at what I do. The problem is that people don't want to hire a gay lawyer or a transsexual one, because they don't think it's right or that the lawyer will fight for them as well. I'm quite unsure how to do anything about this. It seems I could make the best arguments possible and win the lawsuit or keep someone out of jail and none of it would matter ....

It feels like the same things would hurt me with making friends. People have a perception of how things should be, and right or wrong I don't fit it. I don't know who to deal with this. I'm actually a very sweet and demure person but a lot of people seem not to like gays/transsexuals and not know what to do with them or how we fit in. I'm still scared to go out in public because of bathrooms. I can't legally go into a ladies room but I am NOT going into a mens' room wearing a dress and heels. That's just asking to be beaten up .

The same concerns hold true with finding love. Then of course there's the question of who I can find love with as a woman. Straight men don't seem to like the idea of dating someone who was once a man and gay men want other men, not a woman. So, who the heck do you go on a date with? For that matter could I marry a man if I changed into a woman? I'd also like to be a mother at some point if possible. This is biologically impossible so can i adopt in the U.S.?

Finally, fiances are a real concern. Any major surgery is expensive. I imagine hormone therapy and possible breast augmentation area also expensive. Insurance lists it as a "cosmetic" procedure and does not pay for it. How on earth do you come up with what must be tens of thousands of dollars for this treatment?

Any constructive advice is appreciated.
Thank you
- ANSWER:
  Sounds like you’re describing my family. lol
  
  These are the same questions we all have to deal with. The problem is that the answers are going to be a little different for each person.
  
  Like answer # 4 said don’t try to look at the at the big picture till your ready. You don’t build a house all at once. Start with a one part at a time.
  
  As already mentioned find a local group for support and find a good gender therapist both of these will invaluable in your journey.
  
  Then start working on all these issues one at a time. You obviously won’t solve them one at a time but you will come to terms with them and have an idea of how to work with each.
  
  Losing family and friends is hard but many do. Nothing worth having in life is free and without some risk. If this happens it’s not your fault, it’s theirs. You can’t live your life through someone else’s eyes. If they truly care about your happiness and quality of life they will accept this. If not, your better off moving on without them. That’s a hard thing to say and harder to do but it’s the truth.
  
  In the end they will go on with their lives and you will be left behind. They will have had fulfilling lives and you will not. This I know to be fact. So please learn from the cost of my lessons.
  
  This is your life not theirs, you only get one and this is it.
  
  Make a plan; Go forward, Never Look back.
QUESTION:
Domestic Violence due to....?
I don't know how it got so far..I NEVER pushed or slapped anyone before...im a woman, 1'55 and 100 pounds, .so there is not much physical damage I can do to a man,.,i know this is not an excuse, I feel really bad because this is not me.....but...let me tell you a little bit more about my husband....
when we were boyfriend girlfriend it was all almost perfect....but when we got married he kinda changed,,,,,, you see I married a virgin and well, this is embarrassing so please don't laugh about it, my vagina was overly tight and I had to go thru 2 painful operations and he was really mean about it..he was like: yeah, this wouldnt happened if you had let me f""ck you when you were my girlfriend...and in our honeymoon he would flirt with waitresses in my face ... he said his ex is better than me... i want breast augmentation and in he told me on our honeymoon also, that i should go to a plastic surgeon with his ex so the doctor can copy her boobs on me..... he said im not intelligent..which by the way i am, i just accepted into college for graphic design....he said his dog is more important than me, that the dog has my same IQ...he took my car and a tire got flat so he blamed me and after replacing the tire he took it to the mecanics anyway without telling me anything and now im stuck without a car for 2 weeks!....he says im not good enough,,,he told me that his brother's wife has bigger boobs than me and that she cooks better than me which by the way she is in er 40's!!! I mean she has my mothers age and looks older than my grandma!!! LMFAO by the way!
so.. he tells me all this things constantly and i tell him to please stop,, and he keeps going on and then starts laughing which gets me more pissed off and i hit him....
I feel bad because I am not a violent person, is not my nature and I hate im reacting this way...... but God, sometimes i wish I was a guy so I could punch him harder!
.......am I a bad person?? or am I just with the wrong man??
- ANSWER:
  His bad treatment of you is unforgiveable. You saved yourself for him and that is how he repays you. He is going to get worse with time rather than better. I suggest you ignore his comments with a "that's nice" and not let him know he's getting to you. He WANTS to destroy you mentally and spiritually. It is very sick, but true. He needs it to feel in control and powerful.
  I am sure that you are very capable and also very smart. Don't let him undermine your confidence. He is an abuser.
  Congratulations on getting into graphic design school. Get the wise guy to pay for your boob job (only if you want one)-finish your design school and then leave him. Then he can take that nasty temperement out on someone else. If you can manage without him at this point, I wouldn't stay another day to be his emotional punching bag
QUESTION:
boob job thoughts? (GUYS ONLY please!)?
I have been considering getting a breast augmentation. Let me first make it clear that I am not a stereotype: I am well-educated, independent, and intelligent. I have always been slightly below average but nobody has ever made me feel self conscious about it, girl or guy. However, I do want to go slightly bigger just for myself. I don't want it to be that noticeable, just an average size I will be happy with. I am just wondering what a guy would think if I was in a relationship with him and told him, would doing this attract the wrong people and push away the good ones?

I am not 100% committed to the surgery but I do not have self esteem issues, I love my body I just see this as an enhancement I would want for myself.
- ANSWER:
  Like it or not, there's a stigma associated with breast implants. If you're only "slightly" below average, and you only want to enhance a little, and you already "love your body", I don't think it's a good idea.
QUESTION:
Boob Job REVIEWS? Your Experiences?
I (need?)-excuse me. I want an breast lift && augmentation. Like my nipples nd areola point downwardss nd i like how my boobs are in a bra. [They're Higher] So, w/ the breast surgery-ill feel better about em. But, what if the surgery goes wrong? im young is shyyt-i wudnt even take off my shirt if it does! ive looked up doctors nd im down to 12,
-can u give me some of ur experinces and/or thoughtss! [u'll really helpp!]
-datsRite'Quishaa
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QUESTION:
Why doesn't the US have a health plan like Canada's Social medecine.Can it really benefit US citizens?
I know so many who won't go to see a doctor because they can't afford the visit.The meds are very expensive and adds to to problem.Canada on the other hand pays for everyone to see a doctor and gets their meds at affordable prices.We on the other hand refuse to allow US citizens to purchase"Life-Dependant" meds from there. Same pharmacutical companys only tripple in price here in the US.All political figures in the White house have excellent Ins.plans so they don't worry about us little people. Besides they get paid very well.It seems cruel not to have a better way of taking care of our sick. I know of military wifes who choose to get plastic surgery,breast lifts and augmentation,tummy tucks,etc.Not out of necessity but by choice, to look nice??? expense that is vain and not fair..Older americans who supported the nation by paying taxes.Don't get me wrong I support our military..but it's unfair to give carte blanc to someone who abuses the system.
- ANSWER:
  Well, the situation is... in the U.S. if you're rich, you can afford insurance and medical care... in Canada, everyone gets it but not on their schedule... so rich Canadians come here to get it on their schedule...
  So... I look at the census... the median household income for America is approx. ,000, so that's half of America making ,000 or less a year. If your household is making ,000, (probably a two income household, with two people making on average ,000 each)you probably can't afford even a small procedure to be performed and if you get a procedure, you'll be in debt for at least a couple of years (not to mention the costs of medication), and that's if you're insured. (Also according to the census, 32 percent of Americans don't have medical insurance).
  What I'm saying is, according to these numbers, over half of America clearly can not take advantage (without severe financial penalty) of the American healthcare system as it stands, and thats a sad state to be in.
  And it's getting worse as insurance goes up 5+ percent a year (for the past few years) and wages are barely rising at all.
  So, if you're rich, you probably like it, if you're not... you probably don't.. but there are more poor pepole than rich, so hopefully we can get some changes.
QUESTION:
Should all women get breast augmentation?
Haha, sorry about that really retarded question, but I just saw this article and it kind of depressed me; also, I wanted your attention guys.

http://jezebel.com/5353717/men-notice-boobs-scientists-say

Anyways, if a girl is an AA, should she look into breast augmentation to a more-natural looking B? This is for myself, and I'm curious. Also, below I copied and pasted some more information, from another question I've asked. You can read that for more info about my case, if you'd like.

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I understand that, yes, personality and confidence are the things that make women beautiful, but nobody can deny that physical attraction is often what first draws people. Please don't give me lectures on personality and such, because yes, I understand. That's what's most important. Also, I know; if a guy loves you, he'll love every part of you. Cool. No more preaching please, and just answer the question. Below is more information too, so maybe you can take it into account as you're answering.

My dad is both Mexican and Spanish, and I have a curvaceous and athletic hourglass body, from both my genes, and dance, tennis, and lacrosse. I'm five-six, size zero, and my measurements are 34-24-34. My hip to waist ratio is seventy percent (roughly), and my BMI is 19 (which is perfectly healthy for me, according to my doctor, because I'm pretty petite.) However, I can't fill an A-cup (my mom is Korean and Japanese, so I have a more Asian-sized chest), and this makes me look slightly out of proportion because my butt is extremely large due to my working out (my friends have compared me to Heidi Montag and Kim Kardashian.) If I were to get a breast augmentation, I'd go to a world-renowned Beverly Hills surgeon, and go up to a B-cup so I would still be smaller than average (average now is 36C in America), and I would be able to not have to shop online, and I'd be able to fit into clothing and such. I'd also look like a true hourglass and not like a pear. If I love my body, work hard on it, and just want to make myself look more natural, would it be wrong to get a small surgery with the sole purpose of looking normal?

Also guys, could you be attracted to a girl with such a small chest?
- ANSWER:
  Everyone has preferences, but there is no reason why these preferences must occur. I'd like to be taller, younger, better looking, not get so angry, not say stupid things occasionally, not be afraid of big scary dogs, I'd like to live in a sunnier country, not be lazy sometimes, I'd like to earn more money for less effort. And so on. BUT my preferences do not have to occur.
  
  When you make your choice there may not be a right or wrong answer. Just a choice - like what will you have for breakfast, its just a choice, not right or wrong. And if there is a better choice then as a human being you may not know what that is. And as a human being you may make the wrong choice, because that is what human beings do.So take your best shot, way up your considerations, write them down and take your best guess.
  
  Sometimes I want to buy things and I think when I buy them I will be happy...but after I realise that I am not. Happiness is an inside job and about accepting yourself as a fallible imperfect human being..
  
  When I have to make a decison I do a cost benefit analysis. I write four headlines, for example; 'Benefits of having surgery' 'Cost of having surgery' 'Benefit of not having surgery' 'cost of not having surgery' Then I write everything relevant under each heading. Take care